2009年12月1日星期二
Male Intimate
These days commercial Snowman Inflatable I asked a lot of persons, “ Can a boy and a girl be pure friends forever?”
The answers are almost definitely no.
I am often teased jokingly by colleagues “This is your Nth boy friend.”, following another sentence “ May be this count is less of estimation.”
The close colleague frankly said to me in private “ You give others an impression that you are ambiguous with many men.”
Looking back, I find that:
Firstly, during these several years, The friends who frequently keep contact with me by phone and messages are mostly male.
Secondly, the friends who asked me for money are all males, and the friends whom I asked money for are almost male.
Thirdly, I air blown Inflatable wrote an article to cherish my valuable memory about my college. I listened to my inner voice carefully, according to my inner feeling with no hypocrisy and affectation, the most four important friends who can keep record in my that particular period of life are all male.
Fourthly, the friends who comes to see me from far away are almost male.
Fifthly, when I go out to another city, the friends who I can rely on are almost male.
Sixthly, I also have some intimate male colleagues.
Selfexaminating, “ Is there anything wrong?”
I told my puzzle to my college good friend. I said to her “ I like the feeling more than a friendship and less than affection.” She said “Does he also think so?”
Admittedly, this kind of feeling and relationship in my inner heart maybe just one-sided opinion. There may be two kinds of facts.
First, the male friend is very important in my inner heart. I like, appreciate and adore him. We talk and communicate a lot. However, maybe this communication is just a need of life. Maybe in his inner heart, I am not so important and valuable as I think.
Second, the male actually has deep affection and crush on me, however, maybe because of self-contempt, or some other earthy reasons, he hasn’t expressed his deep feeling to me. Infatuation makes one be nice to the partner, makes one care and concern the partner. It makes me trust and rely on him. However, I am too beef-witted to understand his deep feeling under his friendliness. Besides, the pursuer who has been refused by me maybe would not like lose contact and communication with me, and gradually we become intimate friends.